It was my break time, and I started scrolling the phone and came across a beautiful reel where a colourful bird was feeding her babies. The beauty of the bird was extraordinary, but what caught my attention most was the caption with the video, and it was: “Who says beautiful can’t be responsible.”
It felt like it fixed an unknown and untouched part of me. Yes, who said this, and how was it fed into my subconscious mind?
While I started working on myself, the first thing that happened to me naturally was that I started loving myself. I started feeling beautiful, free, and yet equally responsible. Why do we even define it for women?
Going back to my childhood, I experienced strict parenting, where I was often getting scolded by my mother if I kept my hair open or if my dupatta was not intact. While doing inner healing, I wrote in one of my letters to myself that my ex never gave me a single compliment ever, and talking to my inner child, I started unfolding the root. That’s when I got my answer—why did I even need him or anybody to tell me if I am looking beautiful or not? And why am I letting people decide my worth?
Society always tries to fix a woman in a box of responsibilities only—work, home, kids, relations, cooking… No matter how much you do, you will be judged over one thing or another.
You know that’s the beauty, true beauty—how we handle everything. We never stop looking beautiful, we just stop feeling beautiful. Just like that beautiful bird—we fly, we explore, we earn, we cook, and we make sure that our kids are fed and safe.
The only thing is, we allow others to cage us with our beauty. We start loving people who do not let us embrace our wings, our colours. They give us a mirror which is a reflection of their inner characters, and we start seeing ourselves the way they want.
Years later, when my 15 years long marriage crashed, I came to a realisation that it was something which was never meant for me. I started my journey, taking care of myself and my lifelines—my kids.
There came a time when I did not know which colour would suit me. I was confused, sad, and hopeless. I remember when I went to buy some clothes for me before my first job, I was trying different clothes and then cried in the trial room because, after wasting hours, I did not know how I was looking and what suited me. I bought some makeup to look beautiful but was neglecting what was going on inside.
But that came to an end very soon, because once you choose to heal, you get rid of many myths which might appear due to trauma effects.
I chose stillness, happiness. I started to go for long walks whenever I was alone, just to be with myself. Slowly, as the hidden traumas were surfacing, the more powerful I became. And all delusional beliefs started disappearing.
I realised, first of all, I do not need to do makeup just to fit in or look beautiful. Because what’s important is to feel beautiful, and that comes when you feel comfortable in your own skin.
Second, it should be my choice, not my need.
And something changed inside me. I started staying hydrated. I started connecting with myself by doing more journaling and letting-go rituals on each full moon and new moon. I tried my best to get over my limiting beliefs and anxiety. I still do, because trauma effects can surface even after years of healing.
My connection with my kids became stronger than ever. And now, after three years, I feel truly beautiful—and not even once do I question myself if it makes me a less responsible mom.
I am a mother who takes care of her appearance, who is evolving each day, trusts God more than ever, and is also doing her best to take care of her kids and to keep them safe—and is flying to explore life every day, just like that beautiful bird.
So, beautiful is responsible. Yes, it is a sense of love, care, letting go, and choosing what serves the purpose in your life.
Beauty is using your wings to fly, explore, and keep your loved ones safe.
Beauty is coming back home each day.
Beauty is a warm hug.
Beauty is the purity you carry in your heart.
You don’t have to give up on desires to look responsible. It’s about making conscious choices every day.
Beautiful is doing everything with grace and being imperfectly perfect.
Beautiful is responsible—is getting better than yesterday.
Be beautiful and responsible, from inside out.
Lots of love. 💖
Dear Shweta,
Like every other time , you touched my heart with your genuine words and feelings ❤️!
At this stage of life, we need to be a peace with our inner soul and that can come once we start loving ourselves first , as mentioned by you.
You’re a beautiful woman who knows her worth , strong and resilient— keep going and spread your wings .
Thank you so much dear Sukanya for your words. I am happy that you liked it.
Very nice
Thank you for a such a wonderful message…In a journey of life, we often forget what we want and where we are leading to.. Woman always prioritize family ahead of their beauty or self confidence.. Sometimes taking a pause, reading such inspirational message from make us really think what we want… you have inspired me and millions out there… Keep up the good work🙏
Thank you so much dear Deepika, I am happy that you could resonate.
Writer gives more importance inside beauty than outside beauty . She means kindness love to chiildren to reman human being is much batter than lady with good make up or hand some man. In history mis words are shortly remembered the people like sarojni naidu Mahatma Gandhi Shakespeare ect
Nicely said !
My thought: When you yourself surrender and outsource to others, then you forgot your own living values and the meaning of living.
When you understand this concept that in this grand scheme of universe, we are both the creation and the creator, then, you would start taking yourself seriously which is at the end is a big truth of living a life🙂
Writer gives more importance inside beauty than outside beauty . She means kindness love to chiildren to reman human being is much batter than lady with good make up or hand some man. In history mis words are shortly remembered the people like sarojni naidu Mahatma Gandhi Shakespeare ect
Wow Shweta, such beautiful thoughts! I really loved this post… it just felt like I could keep reading it forever and didn’t want it to end.
And it’s a fact that you’ve become even more beautiful than before 😄
It feels so nice to see that glow on your face!
It’s wonderful . Beautiful description of what being an individual means. What anyone has to do with life and understand it . Amazing. ❤️
As always, your message touched my heart❤️. You always give a very good messages.
Actually, beauty of mind, heart and soul is very important. We should focus on our goals. We should fulfill our responsibilities with hard work. Your words are very inspiring 🙏🏻🤗.
Radha Rani always bless you🧿
बहुत ही सुंदर लिखा है सुंदरता की वाकई में कोई परिभाषा नहीं होती हमें अपने अंदर सुंदरता महसूस करनी पड़ती है और किसी के कहने से यह सोचने से हमें अपने अंदर की सुंदरता को खत्म नहीं करना सुंदरता एक विचार है जैसे विचार हमारे अंदर होंगे वही हमारे चेहरे पर झलकेंगे इसलिए कभी भी खुद से प्रेम करना ना छोड़ो बहुत-बहुत आशीर्वाद